Currently, commonplace manifestations of exhibitionism encompass various forms: Numerous Instagram posts exhibiting constellations of acne without filters. OnlyFans accounts, curated with specific kinks. Substack newsletters sent to thousands, divulging personal, visceral details to the masses through personal essays. Thus, in a generation almost renowned for its inclination to publicize what was once private, it's unsurprising that the dissemination of nudes is more prevalent than ever. According to a recent poll by GQ, 40% of 16- to 24-year-olds acknowledged sending nudes as the new norm.
Despite the thrill it evokes, this data raises an unexplored question: As the exchange of nudes becomes increasingly normalized, how do recipients react? Do people genuinely desire explicit photos? Or does the satisfaction primarily lie with the sender?
Quantifying such preferences accurately is challenging. Most individuals appreciate the allure of a suggestive photo now and then, whether or not they actively request it. While such visuals may not be the cornerstone of relationships, they often serve as an enticing bonus. However, based on numerous online surveys, Reddit discussions, and casual conversations among peers regarding the receipt of nude images, here's what we've gleaned:
While few expressed deep offense at receiving nude photos (even the most explicit dick pics often lean more towards vulnerability than offensiveness), a surprising number indicated they wouldn't necessarily seek them out. Many viewed them as nonessential or pivotal in romantic or sexual interactions with others. Naturally, exceptions abound, but it appears that few individuals actively desire nude images.
Conversely, the act of sending nudes appears to be where much of the pleasure lies. Sharing nudity online naturally comes with risks, leading individuals to opt for suggestive photos rather than fully explicit ones, often omitting identifying details or contexts. Particularly during quarantine and in an era defined by smartphone-enabled forms of exhibitionism, it's no wonder that capturing ourselves in our natural state has become an art form. It's a way of glorifying and celebrating our bodies akin to treating them as renaissance paintings. The act of sending nudes, therefore, stems from the desire to share this artistry with an audience. In fact, many individuals we spoke with regularly took nude photos even if they didn't always send them.
In essence, the question of whether people genuinely desire nudes becomes moot. While it's essential to obtain consent before sending explicit content to a partner and to respect their boundaries, the act of sending nudes need not solely revolve around the recipient. It's about embracing and championing one's body in its natural form, celebrating the results in the process.